Good life experiences from a book!!

I'm in a vampire phase right now and I'm reading this series of books by Laurell K. Hamilton called Anita Blake: The Vampire Hunter. You know when you read a book fantasy or not you do get some life experiences from it. Love a very complicated word, everyone have a different meaning to it, you could love best friend but not in a way to love someone you can relate to or someone you can live with or marry. My question is does men and women have the same definition of love? Or does some people have so my emotion to love more than one person. Well when you love more than one person, the people you love do they love you enough to let you love more than one person? I been through that once and trust me it's hard some people my think it's easy but it's not. I love my man from High School ( love him didn't say was with him) and after we graduated 2yrs after we hook up and surprisingly I still love him, but i was in love with someone else too. I was hard b/c i wanted to be with both but i didn't know what to do so i decide to tell they both about each other, i know your thinking is shouldn't of, but in my good book of Anita Blake she had the same problem ( although her problem ending with the both guys love her enough to share her) but my when differently, the guy that i was with got angry and told me to end it with my High School love , but my High School love told me he understand the situation i'm in and he didn't wanted me to choose and he's back off. People i though he love he just as much as the other guy, but i was wrong he loves me more than the other guy, just for me not to be a complicated situation he rather give me up so i could be happy. Love so complicated makes people do stupid things well i dump the other guy and i'm with my High School love and we're going on 4yrs and we have a little boy together. And happy i take a lesson from a book but life is like a book your the writer and every little lessons come from somewhere, someone, or somewhat. Just take a risk, just like my "Good life experiences from a book!!"